'This decision is going to break my heart either way': Pawrent's girlfriend springs surprising ultimatum, forcing him to choose between his furever feline friend and moving into her cat-free home

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Sarah Brown • Writer and Editor
May 21, 2025 7:00 PM EDT

Oh, the classic cat vs. cohabitation showdown. Here's a pawrent who's torn between love for their girlfriend and love for their lifelong feline sidekick. The girlfriend's spotless, no-pet palace clashes with the cat's fuzzy, unconditional affection, leaving this hooman stuck between furever loyalty and relationship goals.

It's pawsitively heart-wrenching! Giving up a cat isn't just about handing over a pet; it's like losing a piece of your soul who's been through thick and thin. And yet, living separately isn't forever either, so the choice feels like a catastrophe either way.

Plus, the fear of resentment lurking if the cat has to go? Totally relatable. No one wants to trade true love for a fur-free home and end up clawing their own heart out later.

Maybe this calls for some creative compromise. Like a pet-free shared space and keeping the cat's kingdom separate. Or a pause on moving in until everyone's on the same page.

Either way, this is one emotional tug-of-war between paws and partnership, and it shows just how much furry friends really do mean family. Whatever happens, here's hoping the hoomans and the kitty find a happy middle ground.

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    'It feels like I'm being forced to choose'
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    Hey everyone. I could really use some constructive advice right now because the weight of this decision is honestly crushing me. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year, and things are amazing between us. We get along incredibly well-we share a lot of common goals, hobbies, and we genuinely enjoy each other's company. There's never a dull moment.
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    We've been talking seriously about moving in together soon. The issue is, I'm currently renting, and she owns her own place, so the natural plan would be for me to move in with her. That's where things get complicated.
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    She's very clean and organized- she loves having a tidy, hair-free home. And while she loves animals in general, she doesn't want them in her flat. No allergies, just a strong preference for a clean, controlled environment. The problem is... I have a cat. I've had her for 4-5 years now. She's been with me
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    FRAGILE
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    through some really tough times and has provided more comfort than I can put into words. She's sweet, low-maintenance, and truly loves me unconditionally.
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    Early in the relationship, my girlfriend knew I had a cat. But over time, she started hinting- and now outright saying-that she's not okay with living with a cat. She's not willing to compromise on this. If I move in with her, I would have to give up my cat. And that thought
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    absolutely wrecks me. The idea of giving her away, especially to someone I don't know, is terrifying. I worry she wouldn't be cared for properly or that she'd feel abandoned.
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    The only other possible option I've considered is asking my parents to take her in. That way, at least I could still visit her, stay in touch, ask for updates and photos-and if things didn't work out, I could always bring her back. But they already have an
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    older cat, and they're unsure about how the two would get along. They might eventually agree, but I'm still worried. I'm afraid my cat would be stressed by the change, might feel neglected, or just wouldn't be as happy without me-even though I know my mom would do her best to care for her.
    via r/No-Compote957
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    Honestly, I would miss my cat so much. Just the thought of not seeing her every day, not having her around after everything we've shared-it's a really tough pill to swallow.
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    On top of that, I'm afraid that if things ever get rough between me and my girlfriend, I might start to resent her deep down. Like, I'd have lingering hard feelings because I gave up something so emotionally important to me, and then everything would be in vain... I don't even know how I'd react, to be honest-this is the first time I've ever been in a situation like this, and it's hard to navigate.
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    On the flip side, I really love my girlfriend and can see a wonderful future with her. But it feels like I'm being forced to choose. And either choice feels like a huge loss.
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    I completely understand her preferences and concerns, especially since she lives in a flat with limited space. But I also can't ignore how deeply attached I am to my cat.
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    There doesn't seem to be an easy way out of this since this relationship might come to an end if the cat stays and we don't move in together soon. I'm really afraid this decision is going to break my heart either way. I'm posting here in the hope that someone might offer a perspective or solution I haven't thought of. Thanks in advance for reading and for any advice you can share.
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    Turbulent_Ebb5669 You could get rid of your cat, move in, then split up before the year is out. Keep your cat.
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    TararaBoomDA You've had your cat almost 5 times as long as you've been with your girlfriend. Your cat has given you comfort and unconditional love. Your girlfriend not so much; for one thing, you living with her is very conditional upon giving up your cat.
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  • Ultimatums are tough, but this one’s a real catastrophe! “Me or the cat?” That’s like asking someone to choose between pizza and chocolate. Impossible and cruel!

     

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    Thing is, this is just the first time girlfriend is going to hand you an ultimatum. She will insist upon getting her way in every decision you make as a couple. It will always be you that compromises, and never her. My advice? Ditch the girlfriend, keep the cat.
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    bobthebreederlincs She doesn't love you if shes making you make this choice. A cat is a living. creature. You made a commitment to care for the cat. What if you had a child, would she do the same? Tell her you are keeping the cat
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    and if she doesn't like it then that's it. If she really loved you shed compromise. Maybe the cat is only allowed in certain rooms? Compromise.
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    Dismal_Value8874 Sounds like she's not the one for you as if someone truly cared for a person they would not be asking you to give up something that you love especially a living breathing creature that you are bonded with. To be in a long term relationship your values have to align and in this case they simply don't.
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    Puzzleheaded Day7... You and your cat are a package deal, your cat is a part of who you are. Either she wants all of you or she gets none of you.
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  • Pets and their humans come as a package deal. One can’t be separated without breaking the bond. You don’t just adopt a pet, you adopt a lifetime of love and loyalty together.

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    Entire-Sir21 Do not give up your cat, please. She's been in your life 5x the time your girlfriend has! Do not abandon your cat, even with your parents. She also has feelings and she might not understand why she's not with you anymore. Pets do get sad and depr sed as
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    well. I would completely understand if your gf had like an allergy, but this is 100% a choice. You don't abandon family, your cat IS your family. As a pet owner myself I cannot imagine giving up one of my fur babies your gf should not make you choose between your family and her, that's
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    not right and -in my opinion- kind of a manipulative move. Pets don't live forever, but they really change your life forever. Don't cut your time. short with your cat
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    WeightEfficient6912 Your cat needs you, and it sounds to me like you need your cat. Honestly, I wouldn't be moving in. Plenty of couples manage to keep healthy relationships without living in the same home. But if you can't, and it comes down to a choice: I'd choose the cat.
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